I think I could live without a lot of different foods. I like meat, and couldn't go without it completely, but I'm fine with less of it. I can control my portion sizes with meals (not easily, this has been an adjustment, but doable), but what I can't resist, what I crave more than anything, is sugar. I love treats. Especially chocolate treats. And I love to bake. The combo is what has made me gain weight since we got out here.
This last week we both did really well, then Friday night came around and I got home late and we were both starving, so we said we would do a cheat meal (we are trying to just have one meal a week where we can eat really unhealthy food, just try and eat a little less of it, and not worry about it). So we got pizza and ice cream that night. It was so heavy, we both could only eat two pieces (don't be too impressed, we had cheesy bread too) and one helping of ice cream. But then Saturday we have leftover pizza and ice cream in the fridge, just taunting us. So we each have 1.5 pieces of pizza for lunch and something healthy to go with it. Then we caved again and had some ice cream that night. And Sunday night, we were both having a craving and I made peanut butter bars. I made a half batch so there wouldn't be as much, but we ate almost half the pan ourselves. I gave the rest away the next day so we wouldn't be tempted. But today, my neighbor paid me back and brought us a bunch of chocolate chip cookies. I just ate five. Within the last 10 minutes.
So this is a little bit in response to Linz before. First of all, don't beat yourself up about it. It is okay to have a little bit of cake or a lot of cake. It will get easier over time to eat some and not go crazy. Tanner and I are finding that we can't completely restrict ourselves, so we are eating normal things, but trying to find lower calorie options and watch how much. I know you are doing Body for Life, but if you want a copy of the spreadsheet we are using to count calories, you are welcome to. I have found it helps me, even though I am not perfect, to see how much I am consuming and helps me scale back. If I eat 3 healthy snacks that day, it helps me really see what a difference it makes compared to have one treat that equals the same amount. I tell myself I can have that treat, I will just have to have less of something else through the day.
I don't know if this is helpful to you, but it is just more realistic for me. I am never going to be able to give up good food, I just love food too much. I am just trying to get back to enjoying it in a healthier way. I loved this web page I found, it also reminds you that 0.5-2 lb weight loss per week is great for sustainable weight loss. It lets you put in your goal weight, your activity level, height, etc and if you leave the goal date blank it will calculate a reasonable date to reach your weight loss goal. It told me mine is 4 months away if I eat the recommended amount of calories. In the past I would have thought this sounded too long, but since I am not restricting myself so much, it doesn't feel so bad. And I'm not as stressed about the scale. With the Fuhrman and other diets I've done, I find myself disappointed if I didn't lose at least 4 or 5 pounds a week. And the times I have lost that much, I gain it back in the next few months.
Linz, it is okay to get frustrated, I feel it too, but I'm telling you right now, just let it go. You are doing great. This one mistake is not going to define you or your self worth, you are still working toward your goal and doing great! You are a great mom, an amazing sister and friend. You are too hard on yourself. Just accept that you want to do better and forget about the cake. Who cares??? Keep going, the rest of the day is going to be great, I know you can do it. This isn't about perfection, we are real people, we don't have trainers, we are living regular lives. We aren't quitting this easily! Okay, I'm going to get off my soap box now, here's to another week!!!
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